10 Principles for Peace of Mind :)

10 Principles for Peace of Mind 1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked: Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace. – 2. Forgive And Forget: This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving. – 3. Do Not Crave For Recognition: This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours if in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely. – 4. Do Not Be Jealous: We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind. – 5. Change Yourself According To The Environment: If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious. – 6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured: This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power. – 7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew: This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind. – 8. Meditate Regularly: Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time. – 9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant: An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name. – 10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret: Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over split milk?

Some Life Lessons from "3 Idiots" Movie

1. Never Try To Be Successful Success is the bye-product. Excellence always creates success. So, never run after the success, let it happen automatically in the life. 2. Freedom To Life Don't die before actual death. Live every moment to the fullest as you are going to die today night. Life is gifted to humankind to live, live & live @ happiness. 3. Passion Leads To Excellence When your hobby becomes your profession and passion becomes your profession. You will be able to lead up to excellence in the life. Satisfaction, pleasure, joy and love will be the outcome of following passion. Following your passion for years, you will surely become something one day. 4. Learning Is Very Simple Teachers do fail. Learners never fail. Learning is never complicated or difficult. Learning is always possible whatever rule you apply. 5. Pressure At Head Current education system is developing pressures on students' head. University intelligence is useful and making some impact in the life but it cannot be at the cost of the life. 6. Life Is Emotion Management Not Intelligence Optimization Memory and regular study have definite value and it always helps you in leading a life. You are able to survive even if you can make some mark in the path of the life. With artificial intelligence, you can survive and win but you cannot prove yourself genius. Therefore, in this process genius dies in you. 7. Necessity Is The Mother Of Invention Necessity creates pressure and forces you to invent something or to make it happen or to use your potentiality. Aamir Khan in this film, 3 idiots, is able to prove in the film by using aqua guard pump at the last moment. 8. Simplicity is Life Life is need base never want base. Desires have no ends. Simplicity is way of life and Indian culture highly stresses on simple living and high thinking, and this is the way of life: 'Legs down to earth and eyes looking beyond the sky' 9. Industrial Leadership Dean of the institute in 3 idiots is showing very typical leadership. He has his own principles, values and ideology, and he leads the whole institute accordingly. This is an example of current institutional leadership. In the present scenario, most of the institutes are fixed in a block or Squarish thinking. 10. Importance Of One Word In Communication If communication dies, everything dies. Each word has impact and value in communication. One word if used wrongly or emphasized wrongly or paused at a wrong place in communication what effect it creates and how is it affected is demonstrated very well in this movie. 11. Mediocrity Is Penalized Middle class family or average talent or average institute is going to suffer and has to pay maximum price in the life if they do not upgrade their living standards. To be born poor or as an average person is not a crime but to die as an average person with middle class talent is miserable and if you are unable to optimize your potentiality and die with unused potentiality then that is your shameful truth. One should not die as a mediocre. He/she has to bring out genius inside him/her and has to use his/her potentiality to the optimum level.

I went places! :)

With the year 2009 end nearing, I turned back and looked at various weirdness (which is normal to me and my friends know that) I have been a part of this year!

All in all a good year. I achieved well professionally but lost a lot personally.
What I achieved or lost is a whole different post, but here I wanted to list the places I visited and will visit in the remainder of this year.

Listing all big cities in the order I visited them in 2009 (and late 2008). Not that this is interesting to you, but it fascinates me when I turn back and look. Also to note that I relocated in the middle of 2009 which was a very sad parting for me because I was very attached to Phoenix, AZ. It was a second home to me! I miss you and I will be back!!! :)

Here is the list (to the best of my knowledge in the order I visited these places):

- San Francisco, CA (Road trip: via Los Angeles, to my best friend's place on his B'Day was a surprise for him)
- Los Angeles and San Diego (Road trip: Universal Studios, Sea World etc.)
- Raleigh, NC (Flight: in Feb to Sai's place who is a friend from college)
- Princeton, NJ (Road trip: through Washington D.C., Virginia etc. a day trip with Sai and was fun!)
- Kansas City, MO (Flight: for an interview at Cerner, verbal offer but not worked out later)
- Salt Lake City, UT (Flight: for an interview at Motorola)
- Bozeman, MT (Flight: for an interview at Rightnow, written offer but did not join as got a better offer at Motorola)
- Relocated to Salt Lake City, UT (Road trip: was fun but long)
- Chicago, IL (Flight: business trip to Motorola mothership ie HQ just after a week of joining)
- Yellowstone, MT, WY, ID (Road trip: for camping)
- Salem, OR (Flight: business trip customer visit)

More visits before end of year 2009
- India (Obviously flight)
- Mumbai (transiting but still will count)
- Nagpur (parents living there now)
- New Delhi (for visa stamping)
- Indore (my HOMETOWN where I grew up)
- Wardha (my parents are taking me there)
- Nasik, Shirdi, Shani Singnapur, Pune (pilgrim tour)
- may be more places which I am not sure about at this point

- Los Angeles, CA (Flight: to meet Sai)
- Las Vegas, NV (Road trip: to celebrate a very eventful year 2009)

Wow! was that not a long list. I think it was long but still not enough and I would like to travel more and more. I hope I travel more in 2010 and all for good reasons!

Think about it and may be you can also recollect something which would make you jot a list on a blog that you do not post to anymore.

Happy recollecting 2009 and Best Luck for 2010!

-Niranjan

Lajawaab Indore

Here's something on Indore! My home town!

(click on the two images below to see bigger version)

Cadbury Eyebrows (official version)

What an AD!

Software Engineer Growth

Soft toy romance!

iPhone home screens

iPhone Home Screen #1 (on July 21 '08)

iPhone Home Screen #2 (on July 21 '08)

iPhone Home Screen #3 (on July 21 '08)

:)

I finally found my soulmate (iSoulmate)!

The proposal (with nervous heart)

She said yes!

Me and my iPhone forever together! :)

Check out my babe! Envious!!!??? he he he

My resume in Hindi

Follow this link to see my resume in Hindi...

:)

Niranjan Bendre's resume in Hindi

Words before & after marriage

Before Marriage

He : Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.

She: Do you want me to leave?

He : NO! Don't even think about it.

She: Do you love me?

He: Of course! Over and over!

She: Have you ever cheated on me?

He: NO! Why are you even asking?

She: Will you kiss me?

He: Every chance I get!

She: Will you hit me?

He: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!

She: Can I trust you?

He: Yes.

She: Darling!

After marriage... Simply read from bottom to top.

Delhi citizen does sting operation on more than 100 Delhi cops

Nataraj Pencils Retro Ad

GMail Art - Google

Awesome video...

Generation Next! :)

A young second generation Indian in the US was asked by his mother to explain the significance of "Diwali" to his younger brother, this is how he went about it...
" So, like this dude had, like, a big cool kingdom and people liked him. But, like, his step-mom, or something, was kind of a b****, and she forced her husband to, send this cool-dude, he was Ram, to some national forest or something...
Since he was going, for like, something like more than 10 years or so.. he decided to get his wife and his bro along... you know...so that they could all chill out together.
But Dude, the forest was reeeeal scary sh*t... really man... they had monkeys and devils and sh*t like that.
But this dude, Ram, kicked ass with darts and bows and arrows... so it was fine. But then some bad gangsta boys, some jerk called Ravan,
picks up his babe (Sita) and lures her away to his hood. And boy, was our man, and also his bro, Laxman, pissed...
And you don't piss this son-of-a-gun cuz, he just kicks ass and like... all the gods were with him... So anyways,you don't mess with gods.
So, Ram, and his bro get an army of monkeys.. Dude, don't ask me how they trained the monkeys...just go along with me, ok... so, Ram, Lax and their monkeys whip this gangsta's ass in his own hood.
Anyways, by this time, their time's up in the forest..and anyways...it gets kinda boring,you know...no TV or malls or sh*t like that.
So,they decided to hitch a ride back home... and when the people realize that our dude, his bro and the wife are back home...
They thought, well, you know, at least they deserve something nice... and they didn't have any bars or clubs in those days...
so they couldn't take them out for a drink, so they, like, decided to smoke and sh*t...and since they also had some lamps, they lit the lamps also...
So it was pretty cooool... you know with all those fireworks... Really, they even had some local band play along with the fireworks... and you know what, that was the very first, no kidding.., that was the very first music-synchronized fireworks...you know, like the 4th of July stuff, but just, more cooler and stuff, you know.And, so dude, that was how, like, this festival started."

Taj Mahal on Google Maps

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B'Day cake in disguise of a laptop or otherwise?

 
 

Tashan Trailer

Timeless India

A documentary about India

North India Girl Vs South Indian Girl!!!

 

North Indian Girl Vs South Indian Girl


WHAT IT MEANS TO HAVE A North Indian GIRL as WIFE

1. At the time of marriage, a north Indian girl has more boyfriends than her age.

2. Before marriage, she looks almost like a bollywood heroine and after marriage you have to go around her twice to completely hug her.

3. By the time she professes her undevoted love to you, you are bankrupt because of the number of times you had to take her out to movie theatres and restaurants. And you wait longingly for her dowry.

4. The only dishes she can think of to cook is paneer butter masala, aloo sabji, aloo gobi sabji, aloo matar, aloo paneer, that after eating all those paneer and aloos you are either in the bed with chronic cholestrol or chronic gas disorder.

5. The only growth that you see later in your career is the rise in your monthly phone bill.

6. You are blinded by her love that you think that she is a blonde. Only later do you come to know that it is because of the mehandhi that she applies to cover her gray hair.

7. When you come home from office she is very busy watching "Kyonki saas bhi kabi bahu thi" that you either end up eating outside or cooking yourself.

8. You are a very "ESpecial" person to her.

9. She always thought that Madras is a state and covers the whole of south india until she met you.

10. When she says she is going to "work out" she means she is going to "! walk out"

11. She has greater number of relatives than the number of people you have in your home town.

12. The only two sentences in English that she knows are "Thank you" and "How are you"

13. She thinks Govinda can dance better than Michael Jackson.
 
 
WHAT IT MEANS TO HAVE A South Indian GIRL as WIFE

1.Her mother looks down at you because you didn't study in IIT or Madras / Anna University .

2. Her father starts or ends every conversation with " ... I say..."

3. She shudders if you use four letter words.

4. She has long hair, neatly oiled and braided (The Dubai based Oil Well Company will negotiate with her on a 25 year contract to extract coconutoil from her hair.)

5. She uses the word 'Super' as her only superlative.

6. Her name is another name for a Goddess or a flower.

7. Her first name is longer than your first name, middle name and surname combined (unless you are from Andhra)

8. When she mixes milk/curd and rice you are never sure whether it is for the Dog or for herself.
9. For weddings, she sports a mini jasmine garden on her head and wears silk saris in the Madras heat without looking too uncomfortable while you are melting in your singlet.

10. She thinks Kamal Hassan is the sexiest man alive.

11. Her favourite cricketer is Krishnamachari Srikkanth.

12. Her favourite food is dosa though she has tried North Indian snacks like Chats (pronounced like the slang for 'conversation')

13. She bursts into songs with her cousins in every movie.

14. She bores you by telling you which raaga each song you hear is based on.

15. You have to give her jewellery, though she has already got plenty of it ..

16. Her thali (Mangal Sutra) weighs more than the championship belts worn by WWF wrestlers.

17. She is more educated than you.

18. Her father thinks she is much smarter than you ..    

 

 

Tashan Trailer

Custom made Stocking Stuffed with Chocolates - got at Wells Fargo

 

Life's story... Will not let this be mine!

Really??? but when???

Happy Independence Day!!!

Awesome map of Googleland!

Check out the Googleland's map (map of all the Google services)


http://logiciels.zorgloob.com/graphe.php

Niranjan

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER

Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no

one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,

it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to

finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married,

they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people

make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on

love. Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a

profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result

of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the

love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime

relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about

finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married

for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do

you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog

together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You

need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or

(2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart.

To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!

Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with

this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.

Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The

basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't

get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and

feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone

with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest

with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the

person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you

test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a

regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher

of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be

good and do the right ";. So ask about your significant other: What do

they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a

materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character

refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who

are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to

seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will

put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know

that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the

ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person

pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they

wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people

whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi

drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they

have gratitude and appreciation?

If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them

everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that

someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as

well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person

after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the

intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married. As a

colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change

after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person

the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.

The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with

your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are

dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key

issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with

a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself

trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective...

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a

distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or

at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible,

not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around

you.

Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean?

Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?

Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going

downhill?

When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?

Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or

appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and

truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who

gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of

your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes

open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and

make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,

ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to

warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you

can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that

important.

Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete,

compare and control?

What do you bring to the relationship?

Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make

someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you

won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness

or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are

the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:

1. TRUST

2. COMMUNICATION

3. INTIMACY

4. A SENSE OF HUMOR

5. SHARING TASKS

6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN

7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,

etc.)

8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS

9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE

10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment

withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will

replace.

Bhavishya

Asked a question in Bhavishya IBN7 news channel and they selected and answered it! :)

Advice from my first American friend

Get a map of the subway - figure out where you want to go, then GO! It's amazing when you get up to the street,
I'll be so jealous!! Go to China Town or NYU or Wall St., or WTC or Times Square or go to Penn Station & walk to the Empire State Bld.
I stayed on the Southgate Tower, across from Madison Square Garden, which sits ON TOP of Penn Station, the hotel is on the
corner of 7th & 33. So many places - nope, you won't be bored!

Thanks "wooo" someone

Guessing what is this all about! Even I was wondering the same today when I encountered this first time appreciation from a total stranger which made me key down the incident in my blog!

After a day long of work, I wasn't tired as I don't have much hard work in office today, I took off to home thinking about my plans for travel to India. Opened my windows to feel the heat outside. Never knew that it was so hot outside. :)

My car stopped on a intersection with red lights, and in the other lane was this SUV with a old lady driving and 2 girls sitting in the back seat which I discovered later as I was busy thinking and waiting for the green light to go and also the SUV was little further in the next lane.

Suddenly I heard a loud low pitched Woooo nearby. I ignored it after a little distraction and went back into my deep thoughts moving fingers in my hair at the same time. And there was another WOO this time louder but same pitched. I looked for some activity in the SUV besides me before I could discover anything, a very beautiful face with long blonde hair came out of the open window, looking back at me and said a quick 'hi' and went back in the car.

Then came the best part, she shouted from the car "Woooooo I like your hair!"

And I said wearing an ear to ear grin on my face "Thanks!".

Gee that was really hot outside or was it my hair! :)

Atleast someone liked my hair! Gosh that someone had beautiful face and blonde hair! Awesome!

Thanks Someone!
I really appericiate your compliment!

:)