Niranjan's Web Journal

Thursday, July 05, 2007

Awesome map of Googleland!

Check out the Googleland's map (map of all the Google services)

http://logiciels.zorgloob.com/graphe.php

Niranjan

Thursday, June 28, 2007

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER

Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no

one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,

it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to

finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married,

they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people

make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on

love. Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a

profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result

of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the

love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime

relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about

finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married

for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do

you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog

together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You

need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or

(2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart.

To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!

Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with

this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.

Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The

basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't

get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and

feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone

with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest

with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the

person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you

test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a

regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher

of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be

good and do the right ";. So ask about your significant other: What do

they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a

materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character

refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who

are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to

seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will

put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know

that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the

ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person

pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they

wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people

whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi

drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they

have gratitude and appreciation?

If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them

everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that

someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as

well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person

after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the

intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married. As a

colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change

after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person

the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.

The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with

your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are

dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key

issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with

a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself

trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective...

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a

distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or

at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible,

not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around

you.

Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean?

Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?

Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going

downhill?

When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?

Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or

appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and

truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who

gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of

your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes

open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and

make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,

ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to

warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you

can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that

important.

Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete,

compare and control?

What do you bring to the relationship?

Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make

someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you

won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness

or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are

the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:

1. TRUST

2. COMMUNICATION

3. INTIMACY

4. A SENSE OF HUMOR

5. SHARING TASKS

6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN

7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,

etc.)

8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS

9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE

10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment

withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will

replace.

Friday, March 16, 2007

Bhavishya

Asked a question in Bhavishya IBN7 news channel and they selected and answered it! :)

Wednesday, February 07, 2007

Advice from my first American friend

Get a map of the subway - figure out where you want to go, then GO! It's amazing when you get up to the street,
I'll be so jealous!! Go to China Town or NYU or Wall St., or WTC or Times Square or go to Penn Station & walk to the Empire State Bld.
I stayed on the Southgate Tower, across from Madison Square Garden, which sits ON TOP of Penn Station, the hotel is on the
corner of 7th & 33. So many places - nope, you won't be bored!

Tuesday, September 26, 2006

Thanks "wooo" someone

Guessing what is this all about! Even I was wondering the same today when I encountered this first time appreciation from a total stranger which made me key down the incident in my blog!

After a day long of work, I wasn't tired as I don't have much hard work in office today, I took off to home thinking about my plans for travel to India. Opened my windows to feel the heat outside. Never knew that it was so hot outside. :)

My car stopped on a intersection with red lights, and in the other lane was this SUV with a old lady driving and 2 girls sitting in the back seat which I discovered later as I was busy thinking and waiting for the green light to go and also the SUV was little further in the next lane.

Suddenly I heard a loud low pitched Woooo nearby. I ignored it after a little distraction and went back into my deep thoughts moving fingers in my hair at the same time. And there was another WOO this time louder but same pitched. I looked for some activity in the SUV besides me before I could discover anything, a very beautiful face with long blonde hair came out of the open window, looking back at me and said a quick 'hi' and went back in the car.

Then came the best part, she shouted from the car "Woooooo I like your hair!"

And I said wearing an ear to ear grin on my face "Thanks!".

Gee that was really hot outside or was it my hair! :)

Atleast someone liked my hair! Gosh that someone had beautiful face and blonde hair! Awesome!

Thanks Someone!
I really appericiate your compliment!

:)

Friday, September 15, 2006

Happy Birthday Meebo!!!

Happy Birthday Meebo!!!

Keep Meeboing!!!

Have fun!!!

Best Wishes and Luck!!!

- Niranjan

This company started with a great idea last year and I have been tracking it's growth since then. Also participated in their work and was awarded with a great Tee which I boastfully wear everynow and then! They made me think and dream too! This is my immense pleasure, pride and happiness to wish all the "Meeboers" and Meebo on their 1st year Online!

Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Do I google???

beedu.. I am google user....

I have tried all the google tools till date...

spreedsheets... (phone numbers, hisab etc are here)
calendar... (I am using this regularly to keep my to-do in it)
picasa (photo organizer) and google photos (http://picasaweb.google.com/niranjan.bendre)
picasa can be used to upload snaps on google photos... and that is fast I would say very fast...
notepad to keep temp data (in firefox I have a extension which enables me to open google notepad easily and also put data into a new note on a right click...)
google alerts for daily news/search on some subjects...
ORKUT
google page creator (not yet created the whole site there but I will soon)
Google RSS reader (sometimes)
Google desktop (it is the best way to search anything in my huge hdd, mails etc...)
froogle (shopping comaprision)
gtalk (to chat)
google toolbar with firefox (for better quick searching)
blogger (mine and our blogs are there)
adsense (will be using soon)
google music trends (to see what the world is listening to)
google blog search (http://blogsearch.google.com)
google directory (to update my website in search engines)
google earth (sometimes)
google translate (sometimes)

wow... what a list...

Monday, September 11, 2006

Wow what a city...

Visited Houston this weekend...
What a city...

check out some photos @
http://picasaweb.google.com/niranjan.bendre/HoustonTexasVisit

Thursday, July 20, 2006

Ek naya shauk BANDANA...

Ek naya shauk laga liya hai...

Wow...

Look at that cool bandana...

This is one thing I discovered in a hippy store in downtown tempe (near Phoenix)...

An old desire comes to life again!!!

Wednesday, March 15, 2006

Some good words about the ones who love you!!!

Tuesday, December 27, 2005

Unhappy Tsunami Day!!! (26th Dec)

One year and one day has gone past the day Tsunami came into some lives!!!

One was mine too...

One whole year and one day and when I look back I see
Things I lost
1. My best friend
2. My dream of getting a PARI (Angel) besides me, whom I could always be behind of.

Things I got
1. Memories, nostalgia and tears (which are now dry)2. My dream of being in a country named US of A.

Things I want
1. My dreams fulfilled
2. More dreams which I can realize and which won't go away leaving me with memories and nostalgia

Memorizing the Tsunami day and hoping this day never comes into anyones life!!!
Niranjan

Monday, November 28, 2005

Thanksgiving (2005) weekend trip to LA and San Diego

Thanksgiving (2005) weekend trip to LA and San Diego

Well the dream at last came true where I meet my best friend in US of A as we promised each other in the immature age of 19! Well it took a hell long time to get to here but the juice was worth the squeeze. Travel plans were made at least 2 months back and it was a surprise for me. I could not wait to reach the real American city with the comfort of having a car to move around, the best company ever and also well planned itinerary made by my Navin (My best friend) and his wife Kanika.

Day # 1:
I headed in the morning to Phoenix airport with my bag packed and swollen eyes resultant of the sleepless night I had due to all the excitement. Finding flights, boarding the plane is never a hassle in US of A all credit goes to the well organized place. I was a bit lucky to get my digital camera just a day before I flew the flight to LA which made me happy with the online dell shopping network a lot. So the flight was small or because of excitement I could not realize the duration. I was sitting besides a young Chinese couple the guy was a eye surgeon and had a great apple laptop on which he was preparing a paper for some eye surgery. I reached LA 15 min before the time and was waiting for Golu (Navin’s nick name) and his charming wife (who was already my great friend). There they were to receive me in a couple of minutes, then hug and shake hands and off we went on the freeway to the “killer” San Diego. Well was a long ride though took us 2 hours in the first traffic jam on a USA freeway. Plan was to go to Pacific ocean beach and kayak (small boat with double sided rows) in the visibly calm sea but was sure wild. I started off well, the couples were not doing good earlier on the boat, then with a bit tips from the kayak trainer they were off with me in the sea. I was a bit easy as I thought it was easy till I was on the boat. A small wave (seemed to be to me but was real massive when it turned me over with the kayak…) came to the right side of my kayak and I was toppled in the salted waters of the pacific. Woooh… I was under the chilling water and kayak upside down. I could see the tension on my company’s faces but I was up to making a move up the kayak but after around 10-15 tries I could not make it. Golu and co-kayak Kaniks went off to the beach for help and the kayak trainer/owner saw us and called for life guards. I was in the cold water with the fear of not drowning but the creatures (small fishes, weeds and corals) under the water freaked me more. I hardly managed to reach the beach pulling my kayak with me and with a guilt of spoiling everything, but Golu and Kaniks were cool about it and cooling me off with some laughs. Ohhh… It was a bit scary though in the sea. Let me not talk about it any more. Then we went to the favorite inn of Americans where Navin had booked the room for us “Holiday Inn”. It was a nice place and we had showers there before we could move out to our dinner in a Indian restaurant. We went to Island named Coronado and there was this beautiful bridge connecting San Diego to the island. It was great there with the high rises across the sea and a nice little place. The dinner that day was in a Indian restaurant which was not that great but for a start Indian food was great to my stomach.

Lots of chattering and talking about good ol’ times made me nostalgic and glad. I was really enjoying the time. Waiting for the next day we went to sleep cause we had a big day ahead.

Day # 2:

Started the day with the Danish butter cookies (in the big colorful tin box Golu had bought) and wht Sev Parmal I had bought from India. We rushed ourselves back to LA to get to the amazing Universal studio theme park. We reached there and got mad started running here and there snapping pictures so that we can save and share the memories. Great place we had all the amazing rides and shows most of which were thrilling and 4D shows the 4th D being the water and vibrations (rather wild movements) in the seats we sat in for the shows. I saw a huge crowd (mostly Americans and Indians – Desies) and most were in the queue waiting for the rides but as we had the front of line passes we just took the gate A and just went brazing besides the longest queues of USA, proudly showing off our front of line neck tags! Rides were awesome and I wished the day would never end but it did very quick even before I could realize and we had to take off from that wonderful place fearing delay. Most rides were based on movies like terminator 2, Shrek, Back to the future, The Mummy, Jurassic park – the lost world, and also shows like Animal Planet live and Fear Factor live. After we left eye struck from the small city walk filled with lighted street shops, we went to the place I have dreamed to be in long back the Hollywood “Walk of Fame”. It was amazing and magical, a long lost dream come true. There were these stars on the footpath with all the Hollywood starts names engraved in a metal star right between the street all way to the end. Then staying there for a hour or so we had to rush off again to have our dinner, keeping in account that we had no lunch because we were busy with Universal, we all were hungry. We had maps to everyplace in the area it seemed, thanks to Golzy and Kaniks for the same. We headed to the Indian restaurant street in Artesia but all were closed luckily! We then headed to the all American food place, Denny’s, which are open 24x7. There I had one of the most amazing food I have ever had, pancakes with maple syrup and egg omelet topped with mushroom, cheese and sided with seasoned fries. The food was awesome, best were the hot pan cakes with the maples syrup. I loved the place, food and Golu n Kaniks to take me there.

Day # 3:

This day started a bit late as we had to sleep and relax a bit after the big day we had. According to the nicely planed trips’ itinerary we had to head to San Diego Sea World. The place was filled of, as the name suggests, sea animals. We saw Shamu the whale’s show, which was the biggest attraction, then dolphins and Sea Lion’s shows. The day was a bit slow (after the fun filled day at Universal studio) it was a bit dull but some shows were good and so was the water ride. We headed out soon from there to the Balboa park to visit a science museum. It was a great place with many experiments to be done and facts to be known with the do yourself exhibits in different section of the building. Ending the visit with a nice movie “Mystery of the Nile” in the I-Max was great. Hungry by now we rushed to the Downtown to hit the Bombay cuisine Indian restaurant and had a great dinner there. To wind up the day we had a chatting till we were dozing off in the bed at the Holiday Inn.

Day # 4:

Day started with a bit sorrow saddening feeling in my mind or rather heart that this will end soon. Great country and company of my dearest friend wish this never ends! Thanks a lot Golu and Kaniks for the best time of my life in US of A. USA is a great place and after looking the 2 most amazing cities here I want to make my dream of living in USA come true. I want to stay here and enjoy my life, fulfill my dream, for at least 10 fun filled years of my life. Well we packed stuff. Kaniks packed me 2 stuffed boxes of the amazing Danish butter cookies and making sure that I get all the stacks of my favorite types of cookies from the big tin box. So nice of her, Golu sure is lucky to have her as his wife! Well the last lunch of the trip was at the already experimented with place named “Baja (pronounced Baha) Fresh” with the best Mexican Burrito I had ever, with the nachos which tasted nachos (not like those in India – they are really the Indian version of Nachos).

These guys then dropped me to air port. We parted with hug, hand shakes and promises to meet again! They were not bored of me or what? Well that was a joke for sure! boarded an early flight to Phoenix and reached Home on a blue shared van and it sure was very cold in the evening. Work on Monday was going to be tough this very first weekend of my life!